support for anyone that needs it!

[bengalsfan2008]

I think that we should have a dedicated support area in the forums. For anyone going through problems in their lives, for anyone that wants to help others and their problems.

I honestly felt so good to know that others on the forums were truly caring for me. I want others to feel the same way. I know there are other forums out there that are dedicated to that type of thing, but it feels awesome when one of my own Bengal brothers shows their support.

If there is anyone out there with problems (any problems at all, IF you want to share that is) please feel free to post it on the Klotsch section and I will try my hardest to be there and show support ( I know many others will be there as well)

[XenoMorph]

I need money.

[Morning Star]

Originally Posted by bengalsfan2008

I think that we should have a dedicated support area in the forums. For anyone going through problems in their lives, for anyone that wants to help others and their problems.

I honestly felt so good to know that others on the forums were truly caring for me. I want others to feel the same way. I know there are other forums out there that are dedicated to that type of thing, but it feels awesome when one of my own Bengal brothers shows their support.

If there is anyone out there with problems (any problems at all, IF you want to share that is) please feel free to post it on the Klotsch section and I will try my hardest to be there and show support ( I know many others will be there as well)

Great idea!! The only thing if we share our troubles, I'm there people making fun of the problems..Some people are not compassionate here!

[duke0476]

Originally Posted by Morning Star

Great idea!! The only thing if we share our troubles, I'm there people making fun of the problems..Some people are not compassionate here!

Well then they do not need to post in the thread.

[Morning Star]

Originally Posted by duke0476

Well then they do not need to post in the thread.

So you won't post here anymore.

[duke0476]

Originally Posted by Morning Star

So you won't post here anymore.

If I think a person is genuine then I will support them as such.

So to answer your question, if you post a problem here, no I will not post a response.

[Morning Star]

Originally Posted by duke0476

If I think a person is genuine then I will support them as such.

So to answer your question, if you post a problem here, no I will not post a response.

but you just responded?

[duke0476]

Originally Posted by Morning Star

but you just responded?

I have not asked for support for a problem. Do you have a comprehension problem?

[Morning Star]

Originally Posted by duke0476

I have not asked for support for a problem. Do you have a comprehension problem?

still responding in the support thread..I thought you didn't care because I am not genuine..But you responded twice..

[duke0476]

Originally Posted by duke0476

If I think a person is genuine then I will support them as such.

So to answer your question, if you post a problem here, no I will not post a response.

[XenoMorph]

Originally Posted by duke0476

It seems you have a

Problem
You want to talk about it i know how frustrating it can be.

[duke0476]

Originally Posted by BengalsFan024

It seems you have a

Problem
You want to talk about it i know how frustrating it can be.

Nah, he is past the point of being believable yet again. Obvious troll is obvious. Just fun to screw with him until he becomes boring again.

[XenoMorph]

Originally Posted by duke0476

Nah, he is past the point of being believable yet again. Obvious troll is obvious. Just fun to screw with him until he becomes boring again.

okay just remember rumble cat is the designated Hug it out Guy...

if you need a hug.


**** Before you ask I designated you RC

[duke0476]

Originally Posted by BengalsFan024

okay just remember rumble cat is the designated Hug it out Guy...

if you need a hug.


**** Before you ask I designated you RC

[Morning Star]

Originally Posted by duke0476

Nah, he is past the point of being believable yet again. Obvious troll is obvious. Just fun to screw with him until he becomes boring again.

I am not a troll nor a he. I think different than you. Embrace my uniqueness

[SteelCitySouth]

Originally Posted by Morning Star

The only thing if we share our troubles, I'm there people making fun of the problems

What?

I'm not fluent in crazy.

[mars304]

Originally Posted by Morning Star

I am not a troll nor a he. I think different than you. Embrace my uniqueness

Had not realized you were a woman. Lol

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[RhythmicGeek]

So I will actually put something down here, because I have been struggling with something a lot today.

I posted a thread that talked about a Scout leader here who has been arrested for and accused of sexual abuse of a minor. It has been on my mind all day because I've known this man for a decade. I know his son, who is now a sophomore at CNU and will be having to deal with all this while taking his finals and what not. I think about the victim, whoever he is, and whether or not it is someone I know and how they have been dealing with all of this. I have been thinking about other potential victims, and hoping they do not exist.

My biggest thing has been this, though, did I miss something? The incident he has been charged for happened in 2005. That was the year of the National Scout Jamboree. I was one of his three Assistant Scoutmasters for that event. Much of that year was spent preparing for Jambo, doing group activities with the Scouts, etc. So I just keep thinking back and wondering if I had missed something, if there was something I could have done, if there was anything that should have tipped me off. Then I feel horrible because not only could I have done something (if I had noticed something afoot), but now I'm sitting here putting the guilty verdict on someone I have counted as a friend for 10 years without knowing all the facts.

[SteelCitySouth]

Originally Posted by mars304

Had not realized you were a woman. Lol

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[SteelCitySouth]

Originally Posted by RhythmicGeek

So I will actually put something down here, because I have been struggling with something a lot today.

I posted a thread that talked about a Scout leader here who has been arrested for and accused of sexual abuse of a minor. It has been on my mind all day because I've known this man for a decade. I know his son, who is now a sophomore at CNU and will be having to deal with all this while taking his finals and what not. I think about the victim, whoever he is, and whether or not it is someone I know and how they have been dealing with all of this. I have been thinking about other potential victims, and hoping they do not exist.

My biggest thing has been this, though, did I miss something? The incident he has been charged for happened in 2005. That was the year of the National Scout Jamboree. I was one of his three Assistant Scoutmasters for that event. Much of that year was spent preparing for Jambo, doing group activities with the Scouts, etc. So I just keep thinking back and wondering if I had missed something, if there was something I could have done, if there was anything that should have tipped me off. Then I feel horrible because not only could I have done something (if I had noticed something afoot), but now I'm sitting here putting the guilty verdict on someone I have counted as a friend for 10 years without knowing all the facts.

1. No you probably could not have known.
2. Given what I know about you and how you approach accusations...I'm betting there is a good reason you have edged closer to the guilty verdict at this time.

[fredtoast]

Originally Posted by RhythmicGeek

So I will actually put something down here, because I have been struggling with something a lot today.

I posted a thread that talked about a Scout leader here who has been arrested for and accused of sexual abuse of a minor. It has been on my mind all day because I've known this man for a decade. I know his son, who is now a sophomore at CNU and will be having to deal with all this while taking his finals and what not. I think about the victim, whoever he is, and whether or not it is someone I know and how they have been dealing with all of this. I have been thinking about other potential victims, and hoping they do not exist.

My biggest thing has been this, though, did I miss something? The incident he has been charged for happened in 2005. That was the year of the National Scout Jamboree. I was one of his three Assistant Scoutmasters for that event. Much of that year was spent preparing for Jambo, doing group activities with the Scouts, etc. So I just keep thinking back and wondering if I had missed something, if there was something I could have done, if there was anything that should have tipped me off. Then I feel horrible because not only could I have done something (if I had noticed something afoot), but now I'm sitting here putting the guilty verdict on someone I have counted as a friend for 10 years without knowing all the facts.

Don't go down that rabbit hole. My nephews step father killed himself and my nephew struggled for a long time because he felt he should have seen some signs or done something to stop it.

I'll tell you the same thing I told my nephew. The fact that you are worrying about it so much right now shows how much you care. And people who really care don't miss obvious signs of trouble. The type of people who do miss obvious signs usually don't care enough to get so upset afterward about missing them in the first place.

[XenoMorph]

Originally Posted by RhythmicGeek

So I will actually put something down here, because I have been struggling with something a lot today.

I posted a thread that talked about a Scout leader here who has been arrested for and accused of sexual abuse of a minor. It has been on my mind all day because I've known this man for a decade. I know his son, who is now a sophomore at CNU and will be having to deal with all this while taking his finals and what not. I think about the victim, whoever he is, and whether or not it is someone I know and how they have been dealing with all of this. I have been thinking about other potential victims, and hoping they do not exist.

My biggest thing has been this, though, did I miss something? The incident he has been charged for happened in 2005. That was the year of the National Scout Jamboree. I was one of his three Assistant Scoutmasters for that event. Much of that year was spent preparing for Jambo, doing group activities with the Scouts, etc. So I just keep thinking back and wondering if I had missed something, if there was something I could have done, if there was anything that should have tipped me off. Then I feel horrible because not only could I have done something (if I had noticed something afoot), but now I'm sitting here putting the guilty verdict on someone I have counted as a friend for 10 years without knowing all the facts.

From the Sound of this case. and the fact you know him personally i understand it can be hard. right now your thinking How did this happen when i was around him all the time and never noticed. Which might mean that it never happened. You friend has been accused of a crime from over 8 years ago. hes not been convicted. And i cant imagine this kid having any evidence or he would have came forward a long time ago.

You know as well as i do that people will do anything for their 15 minutes. With the recent problems at Penn state and before that the Church and MJ (michael jackson) these type of cases are extremely high profile. which is unfortant because even an innocent man will have his name destroyed within a week.

I wouldnt stop believing in your friend until there is some undeniable facts that proves hes a child molestor or whatever hes being charged with. The fact you knew him so well and couldnt imagine this to be true might be a reason to consider making a testimony.

[fredtoast]

Originally Posted by BengalsFan024

And i cant imagine this kid having any evidence or he would have came forward a long time ago.

Actually this type of thing happens all the time and people don't come forward until they realize they are not the only one.

Child molesters rarely use force to get what they want. Instead they convince the kids that it isn't really that bad or somehow manipulate the victim into going along with it. Then once the kid is involved the molester says "You can't tell on me because I didn't force you to do it. You are just as guilty as me."

When McQueary saw Sandusky and that kid in the Penn State shower the victim didn't think he was being saved from a rape. He thought he was getting busted having sex in the shower. That is why victims are often ashamed to come forward.

[XenoMorph]

Originally Posted by fredtoast

Actually this type of thing happens all the time and people don't come forward until they realize they are not the only one.

Child molesters rarely use force to get what they want. Instead they convince the kids that it isn't really that bad or somehow manipulate the victim into going along with it. Then once the kid is involved the molester says "You can't tell on me because I didn't force you to do it. You are just as guilty as me."

When McQueary saw Sandusky and that kid in the Penn State shower the victim didn't think he was being saved from a rape. He thought he was getting busted having sex in the shower. That is why victims are often ashamed to come forward.

How can you later press charges against someone for something you agreed to at the time...

I understand the whole legal precident behind it. Adult minor. etc.

But you could be 18 and go to jail for having sex with a 17 year old.

But a 60 year can nail any 18 year old he can get.



but in this case have others came forward against this man?

[fredtoast]

Originally Posted by BengalsFan024

But you could be 18 and go to jail for having sex with a 17 year old.

Most statutory rape laws require a 4 year difference in age, but that only applies if the juvenile is above the age on consent (usually 16).